This is how my days go right now...
Me: Teagan, do you want your diaper changed on the floor or on the bed?
Teagan: Ummmm, bed.
Me: Quinn, do you want to wear the pink shirt or the green shirt?
Q: Ummmmm, green.
Me: Girls, will you walk to your high chair or do you want Mommy to carry you? (This is after I've asked them to get in their high chairs 3 times)
Me: Girls, will you actually get in your high chairs on your own or should Mommy put you in? (After they walked to their high chairs and proceeded to play with the straps)
T&Q: Mommy do it!
Me: Girls, will you put on your own shoes or should Mommy do it?
T: TT do it!
Sometime during the morning
Me: Quinn, do you want your diaper changed on the floor or on the couch?
Me: Girls, do you want a peach or grapes for dessert?
Me: Quinn, can you please stop jumping on Riley or should Mommy come over there and take you off him? (After saying 3 times that we do not jump on the dog)
Q: Q do it!
I think you get the gist.
While many parents of toddlers already do this, I recently discovered the brilliant tactic of giving choices that will still result in the same outcome. Toddler gets to assert her independence. Mommy still gets what she wants. I discovered this after asking them to do things, only to be faced with a ton of resistance, tantrums and fights. It is amazing how giving choices suddenly turns their ability to hear back on!